• James

Ally perspective: Strip clubs from an outside point of view

I was first introduced to strip clubs when I used to work next door to one in my hometown of Southport, Merseyside. The club was positioned next to a pub and other tourist spots in the town, however it was self-contained and discreet. I wouldn’t say it detracts from the seaside town atmosphere at all, there’s no trouble spilling on to the streets, which can’t be said for the pubs and clubs in the area.

Having been inside the club I have to say that the experience was very well controlled. The bouncers brief you on the rules, such as no touching, before you go in and keep an eye out for anyone breaking them. They are positioned around the club to cover all viewpoints and can see what’s going on at all times to make sure rules aren’t being broken.

I worked at the pub during the 2018 World Cup and the football season before that. From this experience I can confidently say the majority of the fights I saw were started by customers from the pub after football matches; people would often leave angry and upset from football and cause trouble. I never saw any confrontation from the strip club during the 6 months I worked next door.

As a young man I totally believe that strip clubs can be a good way for men to learn about consent. As we aren’t allowed to touch the dancers in these establishments, going to strip clubs can help us learn how to enjoy ourselves while respecting boundaries that are in place. It’s also a great way for shy, socially anxious men to practise talking to women, who have chosen to do this job role. I believe attending strip clubs can help to improve social skills and confidence, and they can help men learn how to respect a woman at the same time as enjoying her sexuality. Obviously this won’t be true for all men who attend, but men who objectify women would do this with or without strip clubs, in my opinion. It’s unfair to punish the dancers because misogyny and toxic masculinity exists.

I wonder why dancers and strip clubs are being targeted, but the football industry isn’t. I'm a huge football fan and go out to watch the matches myself much more frequently than I would attend a strip club, but I can’t argue with the amount of trouble there is related to the game. We all know domestic violence cases increase by 38% when England lose a match and by 26% when they win or draw. I’ve had so much experience of seeing the crime related to football when working in pubs and watching the matches. We have all seen the trouble caused by the most recent Euros. Yet no one is trying to shut down this industry? It seems so unfair that the people who work in strip clubs are being targeted instead, and it doesn’t make sense.

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